Have you ever considered that you might need more failures in your life? Huh? More failures? If you fear failure like I used to, the thought of more failures may be creating a knot in your stomach right now. Take a deep breath and keep reading.
There was a time in my life when I feared failure. When I thought of failure I would get a knot in my stomach and start to feel stressed, sometimes that feeling started just by thinking about failing, even before I started what I feared failing at.
During that time in my life, I would run through all the “what if” scenarios. Anything and everything that could happen. I would get into a fear-failure cycle that went something like this. “I should try something new” would trigger the “what if” scenarios to begin. I would run through a million of them, always connecting to the absolute worst case scenario if I failed! I held on to that negative outcome which would trigger more fear. The fear would trigger more what if’s…you get the idea of the cycle. Eventually I would just get stuck in the cycle, freeze and do nothing. I had a fear of failure that stopped me from going outside my narrow comfort zone.
At this time in my life my comfort zone was fairly narrow and my fear of failure held me there. There came a time in my life when my heart and soul called me to do and be more. It was a calling to get out of my comfort zone. Are you feeling that same calling? Are you feeling there’s something more you are supposed to be doing? For me that calling got so strong I couldn’t deny it. In order to move outside my comfort zone I had to do some rewiring.
Here are a few things I changed:
- I stopped naming failures, failures. I asked myself what really defines a failure anyway. I started to change from seeing failures to seeing lessons.
- I stopped believing failure is the opposite of success and I started believing quitting is the opposite of success. Failures are indicators that I’m learning.
- I stopped dwelling on the failure and started focusing on the outcome. Magic happened when I focused on what I wanted.
Crazy good things happened when I was willing to take a leap and get out of my comfort zone. The key was that I had to be willing to take the leap. To do that I had to change the way I was seeing failure and I had to get rid of that icky feeling I let failure bring up in me. You have the power to make these same shifts. It’s a choice. If you’re ready to live in the magic that life holds just beyond your comfort zone, set the intention and make the choice. You got this!
What will it take for you to move outside your comfort zone? What meaning have you been attaching to failure? What are you choosing your new meaning to be? Share your thoughts & feelings with our sisterhood. We all learn and grow together when you share!