I want to introduce you to Debra. She is a mom of three beautiful children, ages 8, 11 and 13. When I met Debra, she described her life as out of control. Debra loves her kids more than anything, and she finds great joy in watching them explore who they are through sports and activities. Since Debra never had support from her parents going up, she promised herself she would be a better parent to her kids. She would attend all her kids’ activities, and they would always know she was there to support them.
As Debra held on to her promise of always being there to support her kids, she became overwhelmed and exhausted, and, quite frankly, she was out of gas! Debra had no time for herself. When I asked Debra what values she believed were really important to teach her children, one of the most important lessons she wanted them to get was they are loved. This lesson was really important to Debra, because when her parents didn’t support her activities when she was young, she felt they didn’t love her.
As Debra looked at me with tears in her eyes from the hurt and love in her heart for her children, I asked her a tough question. Do you believe you can be the best mom to your kids if you are not taking the time to recharge and be the best you? When you fly on an airplane, during the pre-flight briefing you are always reminded to put on your oxygen mask first and then put one on the children or others around you that need help. There is a good reason for that. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be able to help anyone else. Life is no different.
During our conversation, Debra realized she was not living the very thing she is trying to teach her children. She was not loving herself and creating healthy boundaries that let her take care of herself.
It is so easy with today’s crazy lifestyle to do what happened to Debra. You get caught in a routine that has no room for even a minute of “you” time. Is it time for you to evaluate your routine and take time for activities that make you the very best you? You can choose to interrupt the crazy routine of life to love you. You deserve your love as much as everyone else does. Are you giving all of you to others and not recharging yourself? Do you have great tips to share on how you recharge yourself? Be a part of our sisterhood by sharing your comments. We all learn and grow together when we share.