I work with a lot of women that have a desire to change something in their lives. I hear requests like I want to change my weight or I want to change how I feel in certain situations. There seems to be no shortage of the things women would like to change.
How many things can you think of right now that you would like to change in your life?
I believe many women in life are asking for changes when they really long for transformation. At first this may seem like splitting hairs but there is a distinct difference between change and transformation.
Webster’s definition of change is: To make different in some particular way. The definition of transformation is: To change in composition or structure. The big distinction between change and transformation is this. Change lets you make something different temporarily. When you change something you can always choose to change back. Change is a smaller process than transformation. Transformation is massive change. When something is transformed it is changed on such a deep level that it can never go back to the way it was before.
The best representation of transformation is a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. The caterpillar goes through a process to become the butterfly. It must change on a cellular level to become the butterfly. If the caterpillar changed, and didn’t transform, into the butterfly it would have the ability to change back. Instead the caterpillar must make a commitment to a life changing transformation. Once it begins the process of becoming a butterfly it can never go back to being a caterpillar.
Because change and transformation are dramatically different, transformation takes a different level of commitment than change. If you decide to change something about yourself, you are committing to making something different and you are giving yourself the ability to change that something back. Just like a caterpillar, when you commit to transforming something about you, you are committing to a process that cannot be reversed. When you commit to transformation, you have to commit to a deep level of change that is permanent.
Feel this “I want to change my weight so I look and feel better.” By definition of change that really says “…for now until something happens and I go back to this weight.” Now feel that revised into transformation. “I want to transform my weight so I look and feel better”. By definition of transformation that really says “…and I am staying that new weight and feeling great forever.” Do you feel the difference in these two requests? Both are asking for a difference in weight, the later is so much more powerful. The later also takes a different level of commitment because it says I’m doing this forever.
Bring the list of things you thought of earlier in this article that you would like to change in your life into your thoughts. Review the list and ask yourself, do you really want to change those things or do you want to transform them? Now you know the difference and you can be really clear with yourself on what you want. It’s ok to want change with some things and transformation with others. It’s important that you are clear which one you really want.
Going forward whenever you have a thought or feeling that you would like to change something, be clear with yourself. Do you really want change or do you want a permanent transformation? When you make the request with yourself (or someone else) know exactly what you are asking for. It is important you are clear on the request because you just might get what you asked for.
Can you feel the difference between transformation and change? In the past, have you been clear whether you wanted change or transformation? How will you look at things differently with this awareness of the difference between change and transformation? Be a part of our sisterhood by sharing your comments. We all learn and grow together when we share with each other.