How to avoid your inner party crasher

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Earth’s population is about 7,000,000,000.  Whoa that’s a lot of people!  Now ponder this, of the 7,000,000,000 people on this planet, there is only one you.  There is not another person who has the exact same make up as you or who has had the exact same experiences as you.  That makes you pretty incredibly special!

You are the one and only you…the perfect creation of you!  When I recently shared this with a sister in our sisterhood she got a big smile on her face.  For an instant she owned the depths of this with her heart and soul.  I could feel her whole being glowing as she said to herself, “yay that’s me.”  Then as our conversation progressed “stuff” started to come up.  The conversation took a turn and went from “I am the one and only me and I am a perfect creation of me” to something more like “I am the one and only me and I am a perfect creation of me…except that choice I once made and the one part of my body that I don’t really like and there’s this one thing that I’m not proud of and this one thing that I once did…” and the list went on and on.  In an instant our sister went from owning that she was the one and only perfect creation to judging herself.

Here is what happened, as our sister started to own that she is a perfect creation her inner judge popped up and said “What?  Let me remind you of all the reasons why that’s not true.  Remember all these things that are evidence that you aren’t all that.”  Hearing that inner judge is common.  It’s probably happened to you.  You’re cruising along in life and your inner judge invades your party with negative self-talk.

Pause for a moment and feel into a time when your inner judge popped up with negative self-talk and evidence that you aren’t a perfect creation.  When you aren’t aware of your inner judge, you have no power to stop it and choose something different.  You can’t stay in a state of owning that you are a perfect creation when you allow your inner judge to invade your party and tell you otherwise.  The first step to really owning that who you are…a perfect creation…is having the consciousness that this is what your inner judge does.  When you bring this into your consciousness and you are aware, you take away the power your inner judge has to get you to believe the evidence it’s showing you.

Sister, you are a powerful woman and you were created as the perfect you!  Focus on holding that belief for yourself and be aware when your inner judge tries to tell you anything else.  Awareness is the key to standing in your power and owning that you are the one and only you.  A perfect creation of you!

Share a time when your inner judge invaded your party.  How did you hold space for yourself to overcome what your inner judge was saying to you?  Was there a time when you couldn’t hold the space and you believed your inner judge?  Share your thoughts and feelings with our sisterhood.  We all learn and grow together when we share.

About The Author

Janelle Saar

Janelle Saar, Founder of the In Power Sisterhood, is bringing together an enlightened community of women that are creating connections, fueling souls, finding purpose, inspiring passion, transforming lives & giving forward. Many women are disconnected from their true selves. This disconnection leaves them feeling a sense of emptiness and a lack of fulfillment. In Power Sisterhood is guiding women through a process of self-discovery so they find the essence of themselves as a woman internally. In a world where women are conditioned to believe in external validation and external scorecards, In Power Sisterhood inspires women to find their passion, power and purpose inside themselves. Women living in passion, power and purpose, live an abundant life of fulfillment, love and happiness.

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