Last night a friend and I had a girls’ night in. We ate Chinese takeout and watched recordings of Oprah’s Super Sunday. Doesn’t that sound like a great girls’ night in? I love, love, love Super Soul Sunday and Oprah!
One of the episodes we watched featured Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of the book Eat, Pray, Love. During the episode Elizabeth brought up that everyone at some point and time in their life asks themselves the question, “What am I here to do?” The episode continued with discussion between Oprah and Elizabeth about how every culture and language has stories of a hero’s journey and that there are very few of these stories where a woman is the hero.
As I watched this episode I was astonished. There was a huge gaping hole in all the conversation that was taking place and the missing piece called to my heart. In that moment I desperately wanted to have a dial in number where I could jump into the conversation and share. Since I don’t have a direct dial number to Oprah, I want to share here and see how our sisterhood feels about this topic.
The question “what am I here to do” is a masculine energy question. While anyone of us as women can follow this question and we are capable of taking a hero’s journey, pursuing it in this manner would be done in masculine energy. Masculine energy is energy of taking action externally, giving and doing.
The question “what am I here to be” is a feminine energy question. Feminine energy is the energy of being and receiving.
Can you feel the difference between “what am I here to do” and “what am I here to be”? The energy in each of these questions is very different.
The key for you and me as women is being conscious that we have both masculine and feminine energy inside. The gaping hole in the Super Soul Sunday episode that called to my heart is we are women and we are fighting for our place in “the hero’s journey” in masculine energy.
What would happen if rather than wondering why there are so few women in the hero’s journey stories you recognized that your journey is different. Rather than trying to fit into the masculine hero’s journey, let’s define what the journey looks like for us in our feminine energy, as the amazing women we are.
Owning your feminine energy and embracing your internal journey to discover what you are here to be lets you embrace all you are as a woman. The “hero’s journey” for women begins by going inside. Our society doesn’t love to hear that story as much as the external hero’s journey in masculine energy, which is sad. Some might say it’s not as exciting or adventurous or entertaining. Nothing could be further from the truth, watching a women transform from caterpillar to butterfly during an internal journey of self-discovery is the one of the most beautiful experiences life has to offer.
The greatest irony of this is that Elizabeth’s book Eat, Pray, Love is about her internal journey. It’s about her transformation from caterpillar to butterfly and it’s a beautiful story of her journey to her heart and what she is here to be. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. It will make your heart sing!
As you become conscious that your greatest strength as a woman is your feminine energy and you become conscious that you can live in both masculine and feminine energy, you get to redefine the hero’s journey. You get to create what works for you as a woman, rather than trying to fit into the mold that was created in masculine energy. We are women, we are feminine. It’s time for us to define what a feminine “hero’s journey” looks like because you and I deserve to experience it our way, as amazing women!
How do you feel about the questions “what are you here to do” and “what are you here to be”? How would you redefine “the hero’s journey” in feminine? Share your thoughts and feelings with our sisterhood. We all learn and grow together when we share.