Can you remember a time in your life when you weren't quite sure what you wanted? You were facing a big decision. You felt lost, overwhelmed and under pressure. You knew you had to choose, but you just weren't sure what was right. In that moment you probably had a lot of self-chatter going on in your head saying, “I don’t know what I want, I’m not sure of this or that.” Then in an instant, out of nowhere, you were perfectly clear on exactly what you wanted. You could see the best choice. You were certain what to do. You knew what you wanted and you knew it at the very depths of your soul. Then you took a little more time to process the choice and you were right back to not being sure again. All the lost and overwhelmed feelings came flooding back.
We all have these lost and confused moments, followed by clarity and then we go right back to lost and confused again. These moments can feel so extreme that you feel as though you are losing your sanity or you have multiple personalities.
Why does this happen? How is it that we can be so unclear, find clarity and then go back to unclear again?
The reason we jump from one extreme to the other is that the way we see the choice depends upon which part of us is doing the processing. Women are every complex and we have many layers. That’s no surprise to you. As a woman you know you are complex! Do you know the awesomeness of your complexity? The awesome thing about your complexity is that it gives you the ability to process in your head and in your heart.
When you process in your head you call on logical and analytical skills and there is very little emotion involved. On the other side when you process in your heart it is very different. In your heart you process with your emotions and intuition. In your heart space there is no logic or analyzing done.
Both our logical thinking and our emotions play an important role in decision making. At times we need to use them together to determine what’s best. There are times when using one more than the other may be best.
The key to being clear and knowing the right choice is to know where you are making your choices from. Are you in your head or your heart or both when you are choosing? If you have moments when you go through the cycle of being lost, then being clear and then back to being lost again, really focus on where you were during each phase. Were you clear with logic and lost again when you listened to your emotion and intuition? Or were you clear when you felt the right choice with your emotions and intuition followed by being lost when you thought about it logically?
When you are aware of which part of you is processing, you have great insight into what is happening. Once you know where you are processing you can determine if that is the most effective place for making the choice or you can choose to go to the other part of you to make a better choice. As a complex woman you have the power to move between your head and your heart with each choice that you make. And the bonus to having the insight is when you go through the lost, clear, lost again cycle you know why it is happening and that you are not losing your sanity!
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